Have you ever observed another person doing some dumb shit? The type of shit they will think to themselves “wow, I regret that decision” or ” oh man, I would have handled that totally different”. Having an objective perspective to all situations is nearly impossible. We see life through a lot of different lenses, each lense is personal as well as unique. Each lens provides its own unique perspective and not every person has the same set of lenses or same method of trying to achieve their desired results. This can cause them to view the world very different from each other. Not only does this cause a variation in perception but also in reaction.
I see the world through a set of lenses that are unique to me. Sometimes it’s hard to remember this when dealing with others. I think it’s also important to remember that an individual’s unique perspective is also shaped by their personal universe, in other words their routine or daily life. I have met folks that seem content, well adjusted, even dare I say it- happy! But the moment life throws them a curve ball they crumble.. as I’ve gotten older I tend to pay more attention to the curveballs; how people handle them and more importantly how I handle them. I also tend to try to remember that what may seem really important to me, may not be very important to anyone else… My emotional connection to a situation is unique to me and possibly a small subset of people. I’ve always admired people that were able to stay calm in chaos, when they weren’t ready for the chaos… that is very different than people that are just able to operate in chaos. I think, those are two very distinct and different ways of being.
I know people that are able to operate in conditions that I have never experienced before and sometimes confuse that with handling chaotic conditions or juggling variables, when in fact they have just experienced more things than I have. The appreciation for experience, is one only appreciated by experience.